Know When It’s Time To Stop Trying

There is nothing wrong with trying to get your ex back if you feel like you want a second chance. But going into that, you have to know that at a certain point, you have to stop trying if he doesn’t seem interested. It depends on the situation, but usually only give it a few weeks before you decide to stop. If he tells you straight up he doesn’t want to get back together, don’t keep pushing. You’re going to end up making him angry and/or freaking him out. Know when to collect your dignity and walk away. If he changes his mind, he knows where to find you.

Get Ready To Move On

Once you’re done trying to get him/her back, get yourself ready to start moving on. Getting over someone you love is very difficult and can take a lot of time. Mentally prepare yourself by letting yourself cry or yell – don’t keep everything bottled up inside.

Get Closure However You Need To

There is nothing weird or shameful in needing closure from someone when a relationship ends. Personally, I can’t get past these kinds of situations without some type of closure. For me, closure means a polite conversation where you totally end things – not an angry fight or tearful phone call. But closure means different things to different people, so figure out what you need to be able to move past this. And be honest with him/her. If you need to talk face-to-face, say, “I just need closure so I can move on. Please give that to me.”

Make Sure There Is Nothing That Ties You To Him Anymore

When one of my exes and I broke up, there were still things between us that ensured that we’d be seeing each other again – he owed me money, I had a bag of his clothes in my room. Make sure you get what you can squared away so that you don’t have those excuses to see him/her hanging around. You can’t move on if you’re holding onto a reason to see him/her again.

Delete or Block Him From Social Media

It’s really difficult to be friends with an ex on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc. I would suggest deleting your ex entirely so that you don’t have to see what he or she is up to without you. But if you’re not ready for that step, at least block him/her so that you don’t see them on your newsfeed constantly. Deleting �is the best option, because then you can’t look at their �stuff as much, but take the steps you need before you get there.

Get Rid Of Things That Remind You Of Him

It’s really hard to move on from your ex when every other thing in your room reminds you of a memory you two had. When one of my exes and I broke up, I went through my room and collected each thing that reminded me of him, whether it was a picture, a piece of clothing he bought me, or a piece of jewelry he gave me. I didn’t want to throw it all out completely, so I put it in a big box and gave it to a friend to hide. It helped a lot, and when I was finally over him, I got the box back and was so glad to have those memories.

Rely On Your Friends

A breakup is a time to lean on your friends rather than deal with things alone. Even if you don’t feel like it, you should push yourself to go out and do things with other people. Not only will you probably end up having a good time, but you’ll also have the chance at meeting other people.

Distract Yourself

Like I said, you need to distract yourself. Do it by hanging with friends, do it by focusing on school or work, or just do some things for yourself that you didn’t have time for when you were in a relationship. Learn how to enjoy being on your own again.

Think About The Bad Things That Happened

You’re bound to think about your relationship, but make sure it’s not all happy thoughts. After all, you guys must have broke up for a reason, right? Force yourself to think about the negative memories and the bad things that happened to remind yourself you’re better off. If you need to, write them down, so that you can read them when you’re feeling really sad.

Focus On The Future

Now that your relationship is over, there is no point in living in the past. Try to stop thinking about him. Focus on what’s going to happen in the future, and think about positive things. You have a lot going for you, and you’ll meet someone new when the time is right!

-Jessica Booth