I will appreciate if you could help publish my story so I can get answers from your readers.
I lost my virginity a few years back during my service year. Before then I had vowed to keep myself for my husband, but I had a boyfriend then who eventually forced himself on me. I wont actually call it rape, because I blame myself for putting myself insuch situation. He knew how much I wanted to keep myself, he still took advantage of my weak moment.
This is an action I will sayI regret in my life, but I have no option than to move on with my life. I will like to state here that after that first time, no man has touched me.
Now the issue is that I will be getting married in two months time, but my husband to be (not the one who disvirgined me) thinks I am a virgin. Please I do not want to be misunderstood, I have never told him anything about it, but I dont understand how or why he assumed I am. Anytime he talks about it, I just try to avoid the topic.
It has been difficult for me and I am confused about the situation, because I cant bring myself to telling him the truth. Do I justgo ahead to tell him the truth, dont tell him at all or tell him after our wedding?
Responses are needed urgently please.
The right thing to do are usually the most difficult. U can only kip it away from him 4 so long. My advice is that u tell him. If he truly luvs u, nothing can change how he feels about u. Besides, it'll b worse if he has 2 find out himself.
U beta tel him d truth now besides how many nigerian girls r still virgins now?
Being a virgin is not a criteria to a happy home. @Ada,d ryt question should be how many Virgins have a happy marriage? So I'll advice you tell your husband to be the truth. If hz truly urs, notin will change hz feeling bout u. If he finds out after d wedding,he'll feel u used him.
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stiphbami
Dis iz ? issue nau..stop killin ursef wit fear or guilt ma dear.if he assumes dat u are a virgin den leave him to hiz assumption.its hiz problem.tins like dis r nt sometin for assumption bearin in mind d kind of world we ????? in..if hiz interested in ur virginity status den he shud b able to open hiz mouth &ask! So he cnt possibly b mad/sad if aftr d weddin he finds out dat u are nt bcos frm ur story u neva opend ur mouth to tell him dat u wr a virgin..