Are you having problems with gaining the heart of the one you love? Have you tried all your best possible methods of gaining their heart, trust and yet not working out? Hopefully, this article might solve your problems.
Welcome to the 21st century. An era where building a relationship is as tasking as getting a good girl for a serious relationship. Paraventure you get a good lady, gaining her heart is another problem.
Guys, it is of no doubt that most ladies in this era lack morals, respect and home etiquettes as compared to those of the 19th Century.
In the 19th Century, parents pray most times for their daughters in respect of a good and responsible husband but in this century, this prayer is the reverse because ” THE GOOD HAS TURN BAD WHILE THE BAD HAS TURN GOOD”.
Nevertheless, amongst them we still have some “house materials” with good moral upbringing and a very high self esteem. Now the question is, how do we get them? This kind of ladies don’t take shit and they are very hard to get.
Guys you need to be brave and have self- confidence and not over-confidence because over-confidence kills faster and also spoil relationships. At your first meeting be smart, introduce yourself, get to know her, start a little conversation and get to read her responses and body language if it states “I feel cool with you” or “this guy is dull and not smooth”.
If there is probability of meeting her again, don’t be too forward, your previous chat and her body responses will lead the way. Don’t be too forward in requesting for her contact details. Just stay cool with her.
If there is no probability of meeting her again, I will advice you to try your luck by asking her contact politely and if she doesn’t, Na your luck oooooooo.
If you succeed in exchanging contacts, it is advisable you be reasonable about it. Don’t make mistakes by disturbing her with calls and texts. As a matter of fact studies have shown that it is not advisable you call or text her that same day you got her contact. At least there must be an interval of 24 hours before doing so.
I think the mistake we guys makes the most is not taking our time to understand the lady we are dealing with. Don’t come on too strong at the early stage. Let the relationship develop at its own pace. Coming on too strong at the early stage will almost certainly creep her out. Let the feelings gradually develop and get stronger towards her as you go on with the relationship together.
Once you guys understand each other and you both can see that the relationship is waxing strong and stronger, I think the next step is for you to make her see the man in you. Be the kind of guy she wants. Every lady wants a neat, caring, lovely and intelligent guy.
You can’t possess all these characteristics because nobody is perfect but all the same you can still show her the best of yourself and still gain her heart. You should also be the kind of guy that would be there for her anytime she needs someone to talk to.
After putting all these in place, I believe she must have been sensing something. Just go straight to the point and let her know how you feel about her.
Be truthful about whatever you say. Let the words come straight from your heart and you must not lie on whatsoever circumstances that might happen because when she later know you lied, that might be a red card for you. “First impression Last longer”
On a final Note, this article if for guys like me Ogbeni Akinremi who finds it difficult to ask ladies out. Cassanovas, you already have what it takes, so ignore it. LoL!!!
Akinremi Abdul Raheem
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